The longer you have been in a relationship, the easier it is to fall into habits that, no matter how much you might love your partner, mean that the spark you once had is no longer there. Of course, this is perfectly natural; when you first meet someone, there is a rush of hormones and chemicals creating an attraction. This fades after a while, and you are left with the love rather than the lust.
However, although some people are perfectly content with this, others would prefer to put things back how they used to be. If that sounds like you and you want to add that old spark into your relationship once more, there are some things you can do. Read on to find out more.
Exercise might not sound very romantic, but the truth is, it can help a lot in your relationship as long as you do it together. When you exercise, the body releases dopamine, which is the chemical it also produces when you meet someone you find attractive and like spending time with. When you work out with your partner and you both feel that same rush of chemicals you did before, the old feelings should return.
Try Sex Toys
Sometimes, it’s not the fact that you no longer have any physical contact with one another, but the fact that the physical contact you do have is rather boring. It’s always the same because you’ve fallen into a pattern and it’s hard to get back out of it. This is why it can be a good idea to try new things in the bedroom to make your sex life more exciting.
One idea is to try sex toys. You don’t have to move straight to bondage if that doesn’t appeal (although if it does, try it out; you might love it), because although that’s what a lot of people will think of when it comes to sex toys, that’s not everything. You could simply start with a dildo and see how that adds something to your relationship, for example. It’s worth trying these things out because it could make all the difference.
Kissing is a very intimate act that is fun and exciting and will usually be the first kind of contact you make in your relationship. Yet over time, just like with many other physical aspects of a partnership, kissing can diminish until you might only kiss your partner in greeting or to say goodbye when you or they leave for work.
Changing this is a good idea. Spend time together just kissing, and if you don’t have the time for that, make sure you kiss one another as often as possible throughout the day. This can be a kiss on the cheek, lips, or a deeper, more intense kiss. Not only will this release chemicals, as we mentioned above, but it will also link you back to the start of your relationship, and that can improve things too.